Nu ren,
Sometimes, we might feel that we are not meant for each other. Not pei. If two people can't get along, does it mean not pei? If two people have a lot of problems with each other, does it mean not pei?
But what is this "pei" that we're talking about? How one does knows that whether are we suitable for the other half? Nan ren thinks thinks, nan ren got solution.
Let me talk about how we make friends. When two people met, it would be "faith." May it be meeting, at a gathering, just a passer by, it is somewhat, like destiny that both of you to meet. That is just the first stage. Than you'll learn to know the other person. As time pass, the character, and traits will be revealed. And at that time, you'll judge whether that person can be your friend or not. If you dun like what you see, you will not be "friends" but just know the other person's existence. If you like the things you see in that person, same goes with the other party, you two will become friends. Than, if both of you were to endure challenges together, play together, eat, sleep, do things together, than your bond with each other grows strong.
Now, nan ren apply to the context of a relationship.
Nu ren, remember I said, in this world, there is 2 million people SUITABLE to be your partner. Just depends on who you meet first. And which one you meet first, depends on faith. And that is just the first stage of being "pei". 2nd, you will know the other person, the character. If you like, than you'll start to be closer to each other. That is the 2nd phase of being "pei". Than you'll start to do things together, if you like some more, you're "pei". But than, challenges will come, to test both of you. After undergoing it, and surviving it, you know both of you are "pei". If you do not win from the challenge, than, maybe, both of you are not meant for each other.
When two people met, they are destined to meet. Problems will come, to make us stronger, to test your endurance. Just like friendship - where true character is revealed when challenges comes between you two, determining is that friend worth to be your friend.
God sometimes wants us to learn something, through another person. Love, is just another stage of life that one must go through. Love will make you grow, hurt and heal, to be a better person.
A person will change according to its surrounding. Sometimes, change to be good, and change to be bad, according to whom you associate with. Same goes with love, it will make you a better and stronger person if loved the right way.
Even though, sometimes, there is hurt in love. Like that saying goes, "we'll always hurt the one's we love." hurt the ones WE LOVE. Even though there is hurt, but there is more love, coz we will hurt, after only when there is love. Love comes first.
Having problems is ok. Love is not bad. Even though love hurts us, but it helps us to grow into a better person. Even though, some are badly hurt, but, one must stand up again, only than, you'll be a better person. To be able to stand up again, you'll have a different perception about the world. Of course, no one wishes to get hurt.
Nu ren, my perception, is that why love can't be easy? When two couple have a lot of problems, does it mean that they are not meant for each other.
Only when problem comes, differences arise, and you'll start to feel both of you are not meant for each other. But, two have gone through the initial stage of being “pei”, just depends on your endurance now. Challenges are here, to show how strong one’s love for the other is. To grow in love.
As long as, both of us do not always quarrel, see also sien, don't have feelings anymore, to me, we will always "pei" I love you so much. Looking back our past, always puts a smile back on my face. How it all began, it makes me feel that we are for each other. Problems can't be voided, there is no such thing as an easy relationship. Love will grow after each challenge.
But after challenges, you will be closer to each other. You will know what the other person likes or dislikes.
Nu ren, what I want to say is, still say the same tings again, is that, nu ren, I will hold your hand to go through it, forever. Coz to me, if we can't go through the small small challenges now, in the future, when we get married, there is even tougher challenges.
I love you, Mmmmmuacks!
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nan ren a nan ren~~ huu~~~ to be honest, after i calm dwn n reali think back, we've been 2gther for 8 months n the times we've been 2gther have reali made me grow.
i think i should share this wif u, treat it like a monthly reporting, hehe.
hmm..the 1st thg i learn in our relationship is how 2 person can be 2gether for tat long without sien each other, tat is becaz we are both in love.
2nd, i learn that what i expect on a bf is not necessarily applicable to all guys, for instance, nan ren, i can be myself when i'm wif u but still, i shuld have more respects to you... i got it!
3rd, when there is love, there is pain. everytime we quarell, our hearts feel pain.. n wat i realize is tat, from the recent argument we had, my heart hurts even more... so i guess my love to u is also more n more.
4th, my mum n ah ma even my aunty have always nag on me sayin tat i'm so rude in my ways of talkin n acting..haha..i nvr reali listen to thm caz they're my family n they shuld get used to my personality. However, my nan ren is diff. you are my lover, my fren... i think of u as my family member but still, i cn't treat u like a real family caz we're from diff background n family. what u think is rude might not be rude to me, make sense? hehe.. therefore, i apologize. i'll be a gentle lady! n gud gf.
ahhh~~ i learn a lot from you n our relationship. God, indeeds, wans us to learn smthg from each other n i know i'll nvr get tired of learning from my nan ren caz love binds us 2gether n God has His plans on us, i'm sure.
nan ren, Yee Ung is the one I love~~!!! hehe
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